RELATIONSHIP WITH IT'S PROBLEM

Assalamualaikum Wa rahmatullah Wa barakatuhu dear respected brothers and sisters in eiman.

Insha Allah today our topic is *relationship with its problems*

Let's stay focus this is the how I will be presenting. short story

from the story we build upon it with the presentation

I will like to share short story.

There was a man who loved his wife very much.

The couple had 3 children. He could give her everything he could but the woman never appreciated. Though the man was not rich, he would share all that he had with her. He could buy for her clothes and the only thing his wife could say was that the husband was fulfilling his duty as a Man. The man would buy a dress but in reply, the woman would mock at him, because the dress was of low quality. The man would smile at his wife and tell her "one day, I will become rich and I will buy for you all the expensive things you need". The woman could never make any phone call unless she was requesting anything from her husband and once her request was not granted, all she could do was to quarrel for days, sometimes fight. One evening, the man was coming from work, he bought a Kilogram of meat, happily the poor man expecting to surprise his wife, he reached home found the wife and showed her the package. Maashaa Allah , today , home will sweet home 😀 Then she shouted: "eh! And you call yourself a man? Which husband, apart from you, do you think comes home with just one kilogram, no cooking oil, and no other ingredients? You better leave it, you're a good-for-nothing husband." Then she threw the meat in the bush and went back home. The Husband felt low but he never let down his love for her. One day, the husband felt pain in his left foot, then a Tumour appeared on the foot, it then emerged growing big and more painful. He went to the hospital after several months of pain and was found with cancer, he was poor to have a better medical care.

Though he was sick he tried much as he could to provide for his family. Two years later the condition worsened and he was put in the special care unit, he was operated and the foot was removed, but unfortunately it was too late, the Virus had affected more parts of the body and at last he called his wife and told him, "LOOK AFTER MY CHILDREN, i feel i can't live any longer though i'll always be with you in spirit, may God be with you". He then breathed his last and died. The woman, and three children cried, for days mourning, they buried him. Subhaanallah 😭😭😭😭Two months later, the wife was crying by her husbands grave as she said these words: "My love, you did all the best to me, you treated me well and gave me all you could, but all i could pay you, was endless quarrels and fights. I never realised your importance and your love until when you were gone, and when

I'm the one to provide food, clothing, education and many others. I remember when i threw your one Kilogram of meat to the bush, but now i have nowhere to get even a Half Kilo. 'THE GOOD DIE YOUNG' that's why you died when you were still young. A husband whom i could mock at but you only smiled at me. The husband who could care and had unending love. I know you are listening to me and i ask you to forgive me for not appreciating all you did to me, when you were alive. We are all missing your presence and your youngest daughter is always crying asking when you'll be back. But you will never leave our hearts until we Join you."

 

MORAL LESSON

Always appreciate what you are given, whether small or big.

Love is not all about how much  we have, but its all about how we share the little we have.

RELEVANCY.

Have you ever taken time to thank Allah for what He has done for you?

Many people only remember Allah when they have problems and once their problems are solved, they don't take time, to thank Him or remain close to Him.

Oh Allah, i pray that you keep Your providence towards me always and give me an appreciating heart so that i'll always be thankful to whatever you give me, aameen.

A believer should be careful in all his affairs, so no one should be able to trick him twice. If a person deceives him once and causes harm to him once, he should be careful not to fall again in the same matter and this includes the religious and worldly damage.

 May Allah put mercy in our hearts. Aameen

 Now we are going to talk some on relationships nowadays hmmmmm

You broke her, so she went back to Almighty with her broken pieces. He made her forget that you ever existed and became stronger.

# Divorce

# Nikah

If you're not patient, you'll marry the wrong person or get heart break

May Allah protect us all from this. Ameen.

Singles be patient the right man will come your way same as my brothers

 Concentrate on the things your spouse does for you instead of pointing the errors.

Forgiveness is what Allah loves. More ibadah together, more blessings together

# Nikah

# Married couples

 TO THE LADIES/WOMEN/GIRLS

Remember: Worldly men avoids marriage by all cost. They can't imagine being with just one woman for the rest of their life. Worldly men are in no rush to marry because they can have casual sex without marriage. By living with a girlfriend, they can enjoy all the benefits of a wife without having to say, "I do." This is a no-risk way to "test drive" marriage. They want to enjoy the single life as long as possible, especially as they become accustomed to having their own space and routines and not being responsible to anyone else. Their greatest fear is that marriage will require too many changes, compromises and responsibilities. He is always ready to ditch his boys for you. After all, it's a lot more fun to play video games and hang with the guys all night. Worldly guys will also put their fraternity, career, and hobbies before you. Blessed is the man who was raised and taught to love and respect women and Blessed is the man with strong character. Good looks catches a woman's attention but good character catches a woman's heart.

Don’t Preach to Your Spouse. Don’t demand love, attention, respect and affection. Rather show your spouse how it’s supposed to be done. Be the change you want to see in your spouse. Live your sermon; don’t preach it. Demonstrate your love; don’t demand it. To the couples....You're gonna fight....but fight fair....and fight in the now..

It is not the big problems that destroy marriage/relationships; it is the small unresolved problems that are repeated and not faced, small offenses that are repeated and not apologized, small hurts that are stored up repeatedly and are not forgiven..There's a saying that, "Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming. MARRIAGE is not extravagant weddings and hand holding selfless; it is dedication, loyalty and admiration. Wedding is a day affair, it’s the marriage that is forever and in order to have a timeless and unbreakable bond, brothers and sisters should learn to follow various rights with respect to Islam.  Learning to being dutiful and obedient to the husband and being loving and caring to wife can go a long way to increase love and adoration for each other. This not only preserves the family but also protects the bond created by Allah from collapsing.

 In Sha Allah let's talk about how nowadays guys play with our revered respected ladies heart ❤

Single Sisters please bring your ears

 Don't judge a book by it's cover, don't judge a brother based on his physical appearance, don't be deceived by huge beard and jumping trouser. Don't be deceived by his sweet and sonorous recitation, don't be deceived by the number of hadith he has memorised .

All these are good qualities but look beyond.

I'd like to tell you three stories, this is not a cock and bull or a kind of fiction, it's true life events, pls follow me.

Bro A met sis B through an intermediary. He liked her immediately and proposed.

He met her father and was told to bring his people for a kind of introduction.

On that very day, he turned himself to a lecturer and started giving lectures on the dangers of delaying marriage, he said he would be glad if the event could be changed to aqid coz he couldn't wait to take his wife home. He displayed a high level of impatience that people started suspecting a foul play.

The sister's father being a wise man could read in between the lines and refused any aqid to be done, the bro was disappointed and it was written all over his face.

A cunny and desperate human, he devised all means to have a sexual relationship with the sister by telling her that her father has given her to him, he almost got his way, coz he was able to get naked with her, but along the line the sis pushed him away saying they were not married.

 Do you know what, he called it quit, apparently what he needed was sex and not marriage and when he couldn't get !

Proposal for Nikah…just a game for men?

[Men and women constitute the society based on the sacred relationship of Nikah.

Many men in recent times, especially Muslim men, have violated the real beauty of Nikah Islam gives a man the power to choose the woman he likes for marriage.

Does Islam give a man permission to play with a girl’s feelings, under the guise of a proposal for Nikah, only to later leave her due to baseless excuses?

Does Islam give this permission to a man? Today, most men are hasty to propose Nikahto girls.  When the girl accepts the man’s proposal however, he delays the marriage saying that she should wait, keep praying, and trust ALLAH.

Is it enough ???

When she continues to insist that he send his parents to her home to seek her family’s approval, he withdraws his proposal, stating that his family does not agree with his proposal.  He is essentially saying that his family is more important than she is, and he cannot disobey them. Then, the girl is left alone and heartbroken.

So, I ask you:

Do men not consider their families’ requirements before proposing to a girl?

Do men not contemplate the choices of their beloved sisters and mother prior to extending an offer of Nikah to a girl

 

Does the girl not have any family of her own?

Does the girl’s family not respect and honor her?

Is she an orphan?

Doesn’t she have feelings and self-respect?

She is selected when he wants to select her, and then later rejected with unjustified excuses when he no longer wants her.

After trusting him blindly, she is left alone.

What does Islam says about women?

Islam encourages the kind treatment of women.

Moreover, Islam also states that men will be questioned about their treatment of women on the day of judgement. Is today’s man so powerful that only he has the right to select or reject her at any time?

Has he forgotten the day of judgement?

Why does such a man not contemplate the saying, “As he reaps, so shall he sow.”?

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 Finally, it is my humble request to all brothers, only contact your desired girls and proceed with the proposal after gaining your family’s approval in the matter.

Also, do not insult girls when you want to reject them with statements like these:

Who the hell you are?

I can sacrifice thousands of girls like you for my family.

It was the biggest mistake of life to propose to you..

Don’t think I am a fool.

Don’t even try to blackmail me emotionally…etc.

 

Moral

Fear ALLAH dear brothers… fear ALLAH… Her tears are very precious and important for ALLAH. They are not just drops of water for ALLAH.  These are her feelings, her emotions, and her pain.

Remember, ALLAH alone is sufficient for her.

Please don’t play with girls’ feelings

 In shaa Allah , this is where I will pause for now

Let's fear Allah in all our endeavours

Allahumma inni as 'alukal- ' afwa wal 'afiyata fid- dunya wal akhirat , allahumma inni as 'alukal- ' afwa wal 'afiyata fi dini wa dunyaya wa ahli wa mali . Allahum- mastur awrati, wa amin raw ati. Allahum mahfazni min bayni yadayya , wa min khalfi, wa 'an yamini , wa 'an shimali, wa min fawqi, wa a udhu bi ' azamatika an ughtala min tahti .

O Allah , I ask for Your pardon and good health in this world and the next . O Allah , I ask for Your pardon and soundness in my religion , my worldy affairs , my family and my wealth. O Allah , conceal my secrets and protect me from anguish. O Allah , guard me from what is before me , behind me , my left, my right and above me . I take refuge in Your greatness against being struck down from beneath me .

Aameen

See you all later in shaa Allah