SHARIYA BASE RUQYA

 

All praise is due to Allāh, we praise Him, seek 

His aid and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allāh from the evil of our souls and from the evil of our actions. Whosoever Allah guides, there is none to misguide and whosoever He misguides, there is none to guide. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except Allāh alone. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger.

Indeed, the best of speech is the Speech of 

Allāh, the best of guidance is the guidance of the Prophet Muhammad  and the worst of all affairs are the newly introduced 

matters into the religion (for which there is no 

textual proof) for every newly introduced matter is an innovation, every innovation is mis-guidance and every misguidance leads to the Hellfire.

Our topic today is Ruqya Based on Shariah

First of all, roqya is the treatment and relief of people whose lives are stuck and who have been suffering for years. Secondly it’s a protection for muslims against shirk and it’s a way of strengthening their faith. Thirdly it’s a way of daawa to non muslims. Then it is a fight against magicians, Satanists, seers and their associates, and a fight against any kind of shirk till it completely disappears.The existence of sorcery

Allah The Most High says : [51:52] Consistently, when a messenger went to the previous generations, they said, "Magician," or, "Crazy."

Men have always known phenomenon of sorcery and possession by jinns (spirits), only modern materialism rejects it in the name of science, trying to explain it all by psychological problems and superstitions. We are really surprised to see that some imams and scholars deny the reality of these phenomenons while angels taught magic and Allah clearly assesses the veracity of it’s effect «These two did not divulge such knowledge without pointing out: "This is a test. You shall not abuse such knowledge." But the people used it in such evil schemes as the breaking up of marriages. They can never harm anyone against the will of GOD.” [2:102] We also know how the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was victim of charm and fell sick until Allah the Most High sent him angels to inform him that he has been charmed with hairs and knots put under a stone in a dry well used for toilets. He then had to send companions to fetch it and the knots opened by the recitation of the two protection surats. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, recovered health after that. Therefore a reality.

There are four symptoms of sorcery and jinns:

1. Blockages in life: work, money, marriage, studies, contests, un-kept promises, bad luck. When these deadlocks are unusual and recurrent until they become systematic then we know it is sorcery.

2. Unusual health problems : unexplainable and permanent pains, strange diseases medicine can’t explain like open wounds, sterility and erectile dysfunction 

3. Unusual mental states: anger, irritability, sadness, depression, oversight, lack of self-confidence, lack of concentration, hearing or seeing things until madness.

4. Nightmares : pursuit, snakes, dogs, bulls, militaries, masks, water, going up or down or flying, dead or graves, vehicles, fire, fishes, persistent sexual dreams.

*HOW TO TREAT THE ABOVE SYMPTOMS* 

The treatment is essentially based on Quran: the Quran cancels sorcery and evil eye, burns jinns when they are unbelievers or wrong. We now need to know relevant verses and how to apply them. This is generally brought to us by the sunnah of the Prophet, blessings and greetings be upon him: we hold the person and we recite the Quran facing them,

*The verses needed to be recited* 

All Quranic verses MUST be recited in Arabic.

Recite the following surahs / verses

Surat Al-Faatihah

(recite 1 time)

Surat Al-Baqarah (2/255) a.k.a. Ayat Al Kursi

(recite 7 or 11 or 21 or 41 times)

Al Ikhlaas 112

(recite 3 times)

Al-Falaq 113

(recite 3 times)

An Naas 114

(recite 3 times)

We will stop here and continue another time. May Allah accept our little effort and forgive us our sins.

HYPOCRISY AND HOW DANGEROUS IS IT FOR THE MUSLIMS

Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh.

Audhu Bi-Llahi Minash Shaytaanir Rajeem..

Bismi-Llahir Rahmaanir Raheem..

"Indeed, all praise is due to Allah. We praise Him and seek His Help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from our souls' evils and our wrong doings. He whom Allah guides, no one can misguide; and he whom He misguides, no one can guide."

"I bear witness that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah- alone without any partners. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger

Our presentation for tonight is on the topic

HYPOCRISY AND HOW DANGEROUS IS IT FOR THE MUSLIMS

The word hypocrisy usually indicates pure evil. Hypocrisy is never something praiseworthy in any way whatsoever. The psychologists have defined it as showing a good face in order to achieve something bad and harmful. 

Hypocrisy is a serious sickness and a great crime. It means making an outward display of Islam whilst inwardly concealing kufr. Hypocrisy is more dangerous than kufr (disbelief) and the punishment for it is more severe, because it is kufr mixed with Islam and its harmful effects are greater. Hence Allaah will put the hypocrites in the lowest level of Hell, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, the hypocrites will be in the lowest depth (grade) of the Fire; no helper will you find for them[al-Nisaa’ 4:145]

The hypocrites are always confused, always planning deceit and plots. Although outwardly they appear to be with the believers, inwardly they are with the kaafireen. So sometimes they are inclined towards the believers and sometimes they are inclined towards the kaafireen. 

Because of the corruption of their hearts, the hypocrites are the most averse of mankind to the religion of Allaah, as Allaah tells us about them (interpretation of the meaning):

“And when it is said to them: ‘Come to what Allaah has sent down and to the Messenger (Muhammad),’ you (Muhammad) see the hypocrites turn away from you (Muhammad) with aversion”

[al-Nisaa’ 4:61]

The hypocrites have many characteristics, the worst and most serious of which is disbelief in Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when it is said to them (hypocrites): ‘Believe as the people (followers of Muhammad, Al-Ansaar and Al-Muhaajiroon) have believed,’ they say: ‘Shall we believe as the fools have believed?’ Verily, they are the fools, but they know not”[al-Baqarah 2:13]

Among their characteristics are enmity and envy (hasad) towards the believers, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“If good befalls you (O Muhammad), it grieves them, but if a calamity overtakes you, they say: ‘We took our precaution beforehand’ and they turn away rejoicing”[al-Tawbah 9:50]*

Among their characteristics is mockery of Allaah, His Messenger and His religion. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“If you ask them (about this), they declare: ‘We were only talking idly and joking.’ Say: ‘Was it at Allaah, and His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger that you were mocking?’

 

Make no excuse; you disbelieved after you had believed”[al-Tawbah 9:65-66] 

Among their characteristics is that they spread corruption on earth, with disbelief, hypocrisy and sins. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when it is said to them: ‘Make not mischief on the earth,’ they say: ‘We are only peacemakers.’

Verily, they are the ones who make mischief, but they perceive not”[al-Baqarah 2:11-12]

Among their characteristics are slander and lies. Allaah tells us about them (interpretation of the meaning): 

 

“They swear by Allaah that they are truly, of you while they are not of you, but they are a people (hypocrites) who are afraid (that you may kill them)”[al-Tawbah 9:56] 

Among their characteristics is that they enjoin what is evil and forbid what is good, and they are stingy with their wealth. Allaah says concerning them (interpretation of the meaning): 

“The hypocrites, men and women, are one from another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Munkar (i.e. disbelief and polytheism of all kinds and all that Islam has forbidden), and forbid (people) from Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do), and they close their hands [from giving (spending in Allaah’s Cause) alms]. They have forgotten Allaah, so He has forgotten them. Verily, the hypocrites are the Faasiqoon (rebellious, disobedient to Allaah)”[al-Tawbah 9:67] 

Among their characteristics is a concern with appearances and fancy speech whilst they are inwardly corrupt. Allaah says concerning them (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when you look at them, their bodies please you; and when they speak, you listen to their words. They are as blocks of wood propped up. They think that every cry is against them. They are the enemies, so beware of them. May Allaah curse them! How are they denying (or deviating from) the Right Path?”[al-Munaafiqoon 63:4]

Among their characteristics are those which were described by the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): 

“There are four (characteristics), whoever has all of them is a complete hypocrite, and whoever has some of them has some element of hypocrisy, unless he gives it up: when he speaks, he lies; when he makes a treaty, he betrays it; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; when he quarrels, he resorts to insults.”(Narrated by Muslim, 53)

If the kuffaar are obvious enemies from without, then the hypocrites are hidden enemies from within. They are more harmful and more dangerous to the Muslims, because they mix with them and know their situation. Allaah has decreed that the ultimate destiny of the kuffaar and hypocrites will be in Hell: 

“Surely, Allaah will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell”[al-Nisaa’ 4:140 – interpretation of the meaning] 

But because of the seriousness of the harm they cause, the hypocrites will be in the lowest level of Hell, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, the hypocrites will be in the lowest depth (grade) of the Fire”[al-Nisaa’ 4:145] 

Because the danger posed to the Muslim ummah by the kuffaar and hypocrites is so great, Allaah commanded His Messenger to strive against them: 

 

“O Prophet (Muhammad)! Strive hard against the disbelievers and the hypocrites, and be severe against them; their abode will be Hell, and worst indeed is that destination”

 

[al-Tahreem 66:9 – interpretation of the meaning] 

Some of the most prominent of their characteristics are lying, treachery, deceit and resorting to foul speech when disputing. 

So the hypocrite is never seeking something good, rather he is seeking to harm people and betray them and bring evil to them, and he achieves that by showing a good face and appearing to be loving and friendly. 

Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The worst of friends is the one who tries too hard to flatter you and the one who expects too much courtesy from you and the one who makes you feel the need to justify yourself constantly. 

It was said to one of them: Who should we make friends with? He said: The one who removes from you the burden of pretence and with whom you feel no reservations.

IN SHA ALLAH I will end here. I apologize for stating early and being fast during the presentation. I'm in the car traveling. May Allah save guide us from hypocrisy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

RELATIONSHIP WITH IT'S PROBLEM

Assalamualaikum Wa rahmatullah Wa barakatuhu dear respected brothers and sisters in eiman.

Insha Allah today our topic is *relationship with its problems*

Let's stay focus this is the how I will be presenting. short story

from the story we build upon it with the presentation

I will like to share short story.

There was a man who loved his wife very much.

The couple had 3 children. He could give her everything he could but the woman never appreciated. Though the man was not rich, he would share all that he had with her. He could buy for her clothes and the only thing his wife could say was that the husband was fulfilling his duty as a Man. The man would buy a dress but in reply, the woman would mock at him, because the dress was of low quality. The man would smile at his wife and tell her "one day, I will become rich and I will buy for you all the expensive things you need". The woman could never make any phone call unless she was requesting anything from her husband and once her request was not granted, all she could do was to quarrel for days, sometimes fight. One evening, the man was coming from work, he bought a Kilogram of meat, happily the poor man expecting to surprise his wife, he reached home found the wife and showed her the package. Maashaa Allah , today , home will sweet home 😀 Then she shouted: "eh! And you call yourself a man? Which husband, apart from you, do you think comes home with just one kilogram, no cooking oil, and no other ingredients? You better leave it, you're a good-for-nothing husband." Then she threw the meat in the bush and went back home. The Husband felt low but he never let down his love for her. One day, the husband felt pain in his left foot, then a Tumour appeared on the foot, it then emerged growing big and more painful. He went to the hospital after several months of pain and was found with cancer, he was poor to have a better medical care.

Though he was sick he tried much as he could to provide for his family. Two years later the condition worsened and he was put in the special care unit, he was operated and the foot was removed, but unfortunately it was too late, the Virus had affected more parts of the body and at last he called his wife and told him, "LOOK AFTER MY CHILDREN, i feel i can't live any longer though i'll always be with you in spirit, may God be with you". He then breathed his last and died. The woman, and three children cried, for days mourning, they buried him. Subhaanallah 😭😭😭😭Two months later, the wife was crying by her husbands grave as she said these words: "My love, you did all the best to me, you treated me well and gave me all you could, but all i could pay you, was endless quarrels and fights. I never realised your importance and your love until when you were gone, and when

I'm the one to provide food, clothing, education and many others. I remember when i threw your one Kilogram of meat to the bush, but now i have nowhere to get even a Half Kilo. 'THE GOOD DIE YOUNG' that's why you died when you were still young. A husband whom i could mock at but you only smiled at me. The husband who could care and had unending love. I know you are listening to me and i ask you to forgive me for not appreciating all you did to me, when you were alive. We are all missing your presence and your youngest daughter is always crying asking when you'll be back. But you will never leave our hearts until we Join you."

 

MORAL LESSON

Always appreciate what you are given, whether small or big.

Love is not all about how much  we have, but its all about how we share the little we have.

RELEVANCY.

Have you ever taken time to thank Allah for what He has done for you?

Many people only remember Allah when they have problems and once their problems are solved, they don't take time, to thank Him or remain close to Him.

Oh Allah, i pray that you keep Your providence towards me always and give me an appreciating heart so that i'll always be thankful to whatever you give me, aameen.

A believer should be careful in all his affairs, so no one should be able to trick him twice. If a person deceives him once and causes harm to him once, he should be careful not to fall again in the same matter and this includes the religious and worldly damage.

 May Allah put mercy in our hearts. Aameen

 Now we are going to talk some on relationships nowadays hmmmmm

You broke her, so she went back to Almighty with her broken pieces. He made her forget that you ever existed and became stronger.

# Divorce

# Nikah

If you're not patient, you'll marry the wrong person or get heart break

May Allah protect us all from this. Ameen.

Singles be patient the right man will come your way same as my brothers

 Concentrate on the things your spouse does for you instead of pointing the errors.

Forgiveness is what Allah loves. More ibadah together, more blessings together

# Nikah

# Married couples

 TO THE LADIES/WOMEN/GIRLS

Remember: Worldly men avoids marriage by all cost. They can't imagine being with just one woman for the rest of their life. Worldly men are in no rush to marry because they can have casual sex without marriage. By living with a girlfriend, they can enjoy all the benefits of a wife without having to say, "I do." This is a no-risk way to "test drive" marriage. They want to enjoy the single life as long as possible, especially as they become accustomed to having their own space and routines and not being responsible to anyone else. Their greatest fear is that marriage will require too many changes, compromises and responsibilities. He is always ready to ditch his boys for you. After all, it's a lot more fun to play video games and hang with the guys all night. Worldly guys will also put their fraternity, career, and hobbies before you. Blessed is the man who was raised and taught to love and respect women and Blessed is the man with strong character. Good looks catches a woman's attention but good character catches a woman's heart.

Don’t Preach to Your Spouse. Don’t demand love, attention, respect and affection. Rather show your spouse how it’s supposed to be done. Be the change you want to see in your spouse. Live your sermon; don’t preach it. Demonstrate your love; don’t demand it. To the couples....You're gonna fight....but fight fair....and fight in the now..

It is not the big problems that destroy marriage/relationships; it is the small unresolved problems that are repeated and not faced, small offenses that are repeated and not apologized, small hurts that are stored up repeatedly and are not forgiven..There's a saying that, "Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming. MARRIAGE is not extravagant weddings and hand holding selfless; it is dedication, loyalty and admiration. Wedding is a day affair, it’s the marriage that is forever and in order to have a timeless and unbreakable bond, brothers and sisters should learn to follow various rights with respect to Islam.  Learning to being dutiful and obedient to the husband and being loving and caring to wife can go a long way to increase love and adoration for each other. This not only preserves the family but also protects the bond created by Allah from collapsing.

 In Sha Allah let's talk about how nowadays guys play with our revered respected ladies heart ❤

Single Sisters please bring your ears

 Don't judge a book by it's cover, don't judge a brother based on his physical appearance, don't be deceived by huge beard and jumping trouser. Don't be deceived by his sweet and sonorous recitation, don't be deceived by the number of hadith he has memorised .

All these are good qualities but look beyond.

I'd like to tell you three stories, this is not a cock and bull or a kind of fiction, it's true life events, pls follow me.

Bro A met sis B through an intermediary. He liked her immediately and proposed.

He met her father and was told to bring his people for a kind of introduction.

On that very day, he turned himself to a lecturer and started giving lectures on the dangers of delaying marriage, he said he would be glad if the event could be changed to aqid coz he couldn't wait to take his wife home. He displayed a high level of impatience that people started suspecting a foul play.

The sister's father being a wise man could read in between the lines and refused any aqid to be done, the bro was disappointed and it was written all over his face.

A cunny and desperate human, he devised all means to have a sexual relationship with the sister by telling her that her father has given her to him, he almost got his way, coz he was able to get naked with her, but along the line the sis pushed him away saying they were not married.

 Do you know what, he called it quit, apparently what he needed was sex and not marriage and when he couldn't get !

Proposal for Nikah…just a game for men?

[Men and women constitute the society based on the sacred relationship of Nikah.

Many men in recent times, especially Muslim men, have violated the real beauty of Nikah Islam gives a man the power to choose the woman he likes for marriage.

Does Islam give a man permission to play with a girl’s feelings, under the guise of a proposal for Nikah, only to later leave her due to baseless excuses?

Does Islam give this permission to a man? Today, most men are hasty to propose Nikahto girls.  When the girl accepts the man’s proposal however, he delays the marriage saying that she should wait, keep praying, and trust ALLAH.

Is it enough ???

When she continues to insist that he send his parents to her home to seek her family’s approval, he withdraws his proposal, stating that his family does not agree with his proposal.  He is essentially saying that his family is more important than she is, and he cannot disobey them. Then, the girl is left alone and heartbroken.

So, I ask you:

Do men not consider their families’ requirements before proposing to a girl?

Do men not contemplate the choices of their beloved sisters and mother prior to extending an offer of Nikah to a girl

 

Does the girl not have any family of her own?

Does the girl’s family not respect and honor her?

Is she an orphan?

Doesn’t she have feelings and self-respect?

She is selected when he wants to select her, and then later rejected with unjustified excuses when he no longer wants her.

After trusting him blindly, she is left alone.

What does Islam says about women?

Islam encourages the kind treatment of women.

Moreover, Islam also states that men will be questioned about their treatment of women on the day of judgement. Is today’s man so powerful that only he has the right to select or reject her at any time?

Has he forgotten the day of judgement?

Why does such a man not contemplate the saying, “As he reaps, so shall he sow.”?

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 Finally, it is my humble request to all brothers, only contact your desired girls and proceed with the proposal after gaining your family’s approval in the matter.

Also, do not insult girls when you want to reject them with statements like these:

Who the hell you are?

I can sacrifice thousands of girls like you for my family.

It was the biggest mistake of life to propose to you..

Don’t think I am a fool.

Don’t even try to blackmail me emotionally…etc.

 

Moral

Fear ALLAH dear brothers… fear ALLAH… Her tears are very precious and important for ALLAH. They are not just drops of water for ALLAH.  These are her feelings, her emotions, and her pain.

Remember, ALLAH alone is sufficient for her.

Please don’t play with girls’ feelings

 In shaa Allah , this is where I will pause for now

Let's fear Allah in all our endeavours

Allahumma inni as 'alukal- ' afwa wal 'afiyata fid- dunya wal akhirat , allahumma inni as 'alukal- ' afwa wal 'afiyata fi dini wa dunyaya wa ahli wa mali . Allahum- mastur awrati, wa amin raw ati. Allahum mahfazni min bayni yadayya , wa min khalfi, wa 'an yamini , wa 'an shimali, wa min fawqi, wa a udhu bi ' azamatika an ughtala min tahti .

O Allah , I ask for Your pardon and good health in this world and the next . O Allah , I ask for Your pardon and soundness in my religion , my worldy affairs , my family and my wealth. O Allah , conceal my secrets and protect me from anguish. O Allah , guard me from what is before me , behind me , my left, my right and above me . I take refuge in Your greatness against being struck down from beneath me .

Aameen

See you all later in shaa Allah

LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE

Assalamualaikum Wa rahmatullah Wa barakatuhu

Praise be to Allaah.  

The issue of this marriage depends on the ruling on what came before it. If the love between the two parties did not transgress the limits set by Allaah or make them commit sin, then there is the hope that the marriage which results from this love will be more stable, because it came about as the result of the fact that each of them wanted to marry the other. 

If a man feels some attraction towards a woman whom it is permissible for him to marry her, and vice versa, there is no answer to the problem except marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624) 

But if that marriage comes about as a result of an illicit love relationship, such as when they meet and are alone together and kiss one another, and other haraam actions, then it will never be stable, because they committed actions that go against sharee’ah and because they have built their lives on things that will have the effect of reducing blessings and support from Allaah, for sin is a major factor in reducing blessings, even though some people think, because of the Shaytaan’s whispers, that falling in love and doing haraam deeds makes marriage stronger.   

Moreover, these illicit relationships that take place before marriage will be a cause to make each party doubtful about the other. The husband will think that his wife may possibly have a similar relationship with someone else, and even if he thinks it unlikely, he will still be troubled by the fact that his wife did do something wrong with him. And the same thoughts may occur to the wife too, and she will think that her husband could possibly have an affair with another woman, and even if she thinks it unlikely, she will still be troubled by the fact that her husband did something wrong with her. 

So each partner will live in a state of doubt and suspicion, which will ruin their relationship sooner or later. 

The husband may condemn his wife for having agreed to have a relationship with him before marriage, which will be upsetting for her, and this will cause their relationship to deteriorate. 

Hence we think that if a marriage is based upon an illicit premarital relationship, it will most likely be unstable and will not be successful. 

With regard to arranged marriages where the family chooses the partner, they are not all good and not all bad. If the family makes a good choice and the woman is religious and beautiful, and the husband likes her and wants to marry her, then there is the hope that their marriage will be stable and successful. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) urged the one who wants to get married to look at the woman. 

 It was narrated from al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah that he proposed marriage to a woman, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Go and look at her, because that is more likely to create love between you.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1087; classed as hasan by al-Nasaa’i, 3235) 

 But if the family make a bad choice, or they make a good choice but the husband does not agree with it, then this marriage is most likely doomed to failure and instability, because the marriage that is based on lack of interest usually is not stable.

 And Allaah knows best.

In Islam, it is not a sin to feel a specific way or feeling of affection for a certain individual since a human being has no control over such things. However, he is definitely responsible for the actions that follow. He will be accountable if he got carried away by this feeling. That is where a man has to restrain himself and protect himself from harm.

Islam does not allow the illicit relationship between a man and a woman. Allah has established the bond of marriage between a man and a woman so that both of them enjoy each other’s company in a legitimate way and both may attain Allah’s mercy and blessing. There is no blessing in an illicit affair.

 If a child asks his/her parent to get him/her married than they must do so immediately. Excuses like caste, race, color, society, financial status etc. are not accepted. The only things that matter are the deen of Allah and a good character. If you deny your child the right to marriage with the person of their choice on the grounds of financial status or caste than you are accountable for your action. May Allah protect us all.

Abu Hurairah narrates that the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said “when one with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage then accede to his request. If you do not do so then there will be a temptation in the earth and extensive corruption”. (Tirmidhi)

 Marriages that are done due to people falling in love are acceptable as long as they do not cross the limits set by Allah azawajal. If a person happens to love someone he/she should approach the other lawfully and get married immediately. For marriage will protect them from evil sexual desires and indeed from hellfire.

“And of His signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you might reside with them, and has put love and mercy between you. Surely, there are signs in this for those who think. (al-Room: 21)

  “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him not be alone with a woman who has no mahram present, for the third one present will be the Shaytaan.” (Ahmad — saheeh by al-Albaani)

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)” (al-Isra’ :32)

“If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle, that would be better for him than his touching a woman who is not permissible for him.” (al-Tabaraani –saheeh by al-Albaani)

 

Falling in love in Islam:

Islam does not blame a person’s feeling. One can have a feeling of love for known or unknown reason and he/she is not accountable for what he feels. The emotion of love that one feels is not the subject of questioning on the day of Judgement. But the actions that follow that emotion are accountable. If the actions lead to evil, it is forbidden. If it doesn’t then it is acceptable. If it prompts you to see that person in seclusion, talk to them for hours, hide that from your parents than it is forbidden, my brothers and sisters. 

Some Hadith and Quranic verses that support this:

"...... then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire” (Surah al-Ahzaab :32)

 Islam forbids all forms of ‘dating’ and isolating oneself with a member of the opposite sex, as well indiscriminate mingling and mixing. Correspondence between sexes leads to fitnah. If, however, one does none of the above, and all that he or she wants is to seriously consider marrying someone, such a thing itself is not considered haram. In fact, Islam encourages us to marry persons for whom we have special feelings and affinity. Thus, Islam recommends that potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage. Which in no sense means that we are allowed to “date”.

The permissible ways to get the one whom you loves are sufficient.

Contact the wali or the guardian of the person whom you desire to marry, there is no need for haraam means, but we make it hard for ourselves and the Shaytaan takes advantage of that.

 Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable so he may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she may want to marry him. But contact between the two who admire one another in ways that are not Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads to disastrous consequences. In this case, it is not permissible for the man to get in touch with the woman or for the woman to get in touch with the man and say that he wants to marry her. Rather he should tell her wali (guardian) that he wants to marry her, or she should tell her wali that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman contacts the man directly or if the man contacts woman directly, this is may lead to fitnah (temptation).

Marriage is a very special and sacred bond created by Allah subhana-wa-ta’ala between a man and a woman. Marriage makes them permissible for one another and lives a life of beauty. Allah azzawajal has described in glorious Quran this relationship in most beautiful terms and has mentioned that this bond is filled with love, mercy, compassion, security, and understanding.

“And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)

Thus a marriage is a blessing and a source of mercy and comfort for a man. It is also a very important Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (saw)

The Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: “The Nikah is my Sunnah (way), whosoever leaves my Sunnah is not from amongst me” (Kitabus Sunan – Mishkat). In another narration he has narrated:  “Young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at non-permissible females and protects you from immorality. However, those who cannot devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

In Islam, a marriage is valid if both bride and groom have accepted the bond and by the permission of the parents of both of them. 

In shaa. Allah, we shall end here and may talk about *How To Be Romantic*from Islamic perspective , another time.

May Allah never let someone snatche your spouse and may Allah grant happiness in all marriages

Aameen

 

 

HOW CAN ONE ACQUIRE GOOD CHARACTERISTICS

All praise is to Allah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Him from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah alone, with no partner or associate, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger_

Firstly:

A good attitude is the characteristic of the best of the Messengers and is the best action of the righteous. It is – no doubt – half of religion, the fruit of the efforts of the pious and the practice of the devoted worshipper. Bad characteristics are lethal poison and lead to shameful consequences. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“I have only been sent to perfect good characteristics"*

 

.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari in al-Adab al-Mufrad

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked about that which will admit most people to Paradise.

He said: *“Fear of Allaah and a good attitude.”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi

Hence Islam paid a great deal of attention to laying down guidelines for treating diseases of the heart (i.e., spiritual diseases) and ways of acquiring good characteristics, which is regarded as one of the most important duties, because no heart will be free of sicknesses. If the heart is neglected, sicknesses will accumulate. No soul is free of inclinatons which, if they are given free rein, will lead it to doom in this world and in the Hereafter._ _This kind of medicine requires profound knowledge of reasons and causes, then it needs hard work to remedy it and set things straight, in order to reach a successful outcome._ Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Indeed he succeeds who purifies his ownself”

[al-Shams 91:9]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to pray for a good attitude, saying,

“O Allaah, You have made my outward form beautiful so make my attitude good too.”

 

Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani

Secondly:

If a person knows what his shortcomings are he can do something to remedy them, but many people are unaware of their faults and shortcoming.

A person may see the speck in his brother’s eye and not see the log in his own. The person who wants to know what his own faults are may do four things:

1. He may sit before a Shaykh who has insight into people’s faults and knowledge of the subtlety of some problems and learn from him knowledge, good attitudes and manners.* *2. He may ask a sincere friend who has insight and is religiously committed to keep watch over him and take note of his actions, so that he can draw attention to whatever he dislikes of his attitude, actions, and inward and outward faults.


2. This is what the best and greatest imams of Islam used to do. ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) used to say: “May Allaah have mercy on a man who shows me my shortcomings.”


3. 3. He can learn about his faults and shortcomings from the lips of his enemies, because the eye of one who is resentful will always notice bad things about you. A man may benefit more from an enemy who wants to cause trouble and mentions his faults than from a friend who wants to flatter him by praising him and concealing his faults.


4. 4. He can mix with people. Everything that he sees as blameworthy among people, he should guard against in his own self, because the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer, and in the faults of others he can see his own faults.It was said to ‘Eesa (peace be upon him): “Who taught you?” He said: “No one taught me; I saw the ignorance of the ignorant as something bad and I avoided it.”_ Insha Allah I will end here and continue another time.

May Allah accept it from you and me and grant us jannah

 

 

 

 

THE RIGHTFUL WAY TO CHOOSE A LIFE PARTNER AND RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE

Marriage is a very special and sacred bond created by Allah subhana-wa-ta’ala between a man and a woman. Marriage makes them permissible for one another and lives a life of beauty. Allah azzawajal has described in glorious Quran this relationship in most beautiful terms and has mentioned that this bond is filled with love, mercy, compassion, security, and understanding.

“And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)

Among different other considerations, the most crucial and important consideration is the selection of the marriage partner.

Islam is one of the major proponents of the right of selection of partner and wants its followers to start this new journey of their life with the right partner.

Keeping this important aspect of society, today, I like to put the mate selection in context of Islamic teachings:

“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.” (2:232)

Freedom of Selection

The general misconception about Islam is that, it is a religion that does not allow the partners to know and see each other before marriage, thus the marriages that take place among Muslims are all arranged where the parents of both the partners make the decision without the permission of the children to be married.

This conception is wrong and Islam gives proper right to both the partners pertaining to selection*.

In addition to the general provision of right of selection as a marriage partner, people argue that Muslim women have less freedom in this regard as compared to men, *this is also a misconception and Islam gives proper right to women to show their consent with regards to their partner*.

 Allah Almighty said about this in Quran in the following way:

“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.” (2:232)

 This ayah of Quran clearly explains the freedom of selection of a *life partner* that Allah Almighty has provided to women.

Moreover, from this ayah it also becomes clear that no one is allowed to *force women* in not marrying the partner which they wish to marry and similarly they cannot be *forced to marry someone which they do not wish to marry.

Hence, the concept that in Islam marriage of women is dependent upon the will of parents or male members of the family is wrong and they have complete freedom in this regard from Allah Almighty.

 From this hadith of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) it is clear that there is no compulsion on men for not seeing the women they are going to marry.

However, the one thing that should be understood in the light of this hadith is that for a man to see a woman, he or she must have the willingness of getting married to the women he is about to see beforehand. Therefore, just seeing women without the willingness of getting married is not allowed.

Like women, men also have the freedom of selecting a partner for marriage. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said in this regard:

 “When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so.”* (Dawood)

Therefore, seeking purity not a virgin should be the primary objective when selecting a partner for marriage.

For both Muslim men and women it is imperative that they find pure partners for marriage, so that the foundation for the relation could be laid upon purity.

Besides the freedom for the selection of a partner, the second tenant of getting married in Islam is the selection criteria which has to be followed in marrying a person.

Islam is a religion of purity, spirituality and height of character, therefore, there can be no doubt in this regard that the selection criteria for a marriage partner is the character of the person above everything else.

Allah Almighty says in Quran:Chapter 24 verse 26

Besides the freedom for the selection of a partner, the second tenant of getting married in Islam is the selection criteria which has to be followed in marrying a person.

Islam is a religion of purity, spirituality and height of character, therefore, there can be no doubt in this regard that the selection criteria for a marriage partner is the character of the person above everything else.

Allah Almighty says in Quran:

Quote from the Holy Qur'an: An-Noor (24:26)

                                                        

ٱلْخَبِيثَٰتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَٱلْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَٰتِ ۖ وَٱلطَّيِّبَٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَٱلطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَٰتِ ۚ أُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ مُبَرَّءُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَ ۖ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَرِزْقٌ كَرِيمٌ

 Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.

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In another hadith, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), *so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper.”* (Bukhari)

This haidth of Prophet (PBUH) makes it evident that above everything the one thing that should be considered while getting married to someone is his or her *character*.

The character or piety of a person is more important than the property, than the rank and beauty. Although this haidth is directed towards selection of women, however, if women were to select men, they could also follow the same criteria and select men on the bases of their character and not their wealth.

Being a virgin is a class and a pride but doesn’t guarantee a success marriage nor Jannah!!!

To my beloved follow men, stop waiting for a pious and a virgin woman while you’re not either one of the criteria!!!

I directed you all to Quran chapter 24 this Suuratul Noor verse 2-5!!!! See how Allah Azza Wajjal describes the category of who deserves who!!!!

Love is a disease and its only cure is to get married to the one you love!

The first thing Allah gave prophet adam alayhi wasallam was knowledge and the second thing was marriage! How important!

The house of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam was not a house of indomie and spaghetti, it was a house of ibadah, as well as a house filled with love and ecstacy! The prophet was very romantic and sweet to his wives! It was narrated that, every morning, the rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam would greet all his wives from one room to another with tasleem! How many men do these today?

The ummahatul mumineen radi Allahu anhunna reported that, the prophet would NEVER pass by any of them around the house without doing something lovely to that person (winking, kissing, hugging, poking, touching her jilbab, smiling), and if he doesn't do any to one of them, it means the prophet is angry with that person!

Subhanallah, he expresses anger with silence

I will have love to tackle these topics but I don't want to disturb you with a lot of messages so I will end here. In case you need me to present on these topics just pm 👌 ok

1.Sex Education

2. Love before marriage

3. How to be romantic to ones wife

May Allah grant us understanding and forgive our short comings

Indeed none deserves any form of worship except Allah and the Prophet Mohammed, SAW, is His Messenger and servant