As salaam alaikum
warahmatullah wabarakatuh
Complete Praises are surely
Allah's, Blessings and Salutations upon the Noble Prophet Muhammad SAW,
May Allah bless members of
His household, companions and those who have followed the right path till now.
Aameen
AlhamduliLlah for a night
once again where we aim at reminding ourselves with certain common issues of
life as humans...
We pray & Hope every bit
of it will be beneficial to us. Aameen
Some practical steps in bringing up the family
correctly.
Seeking Righteous Children
When an individual wants to
get married, they should have the intention to have - and ask Allah to give
them - righteous children. They should be patient upon this and seek their
children with the correct intention i.e. to increase the number of the
Prophet's Ummah, and seek Allah's reward in this life and the Hereafter by way
of his children.
_As the Prophet said,_ "
Marry those women who are loving and fertile, for verily I want to be
amongst those (Prophets) who have the most followers on the Day of
Judgement." So when a person gets married he should seek children with
the intention to have many children which will go towards making up the Ummah
of the Prophet and that these children may become righteous slaves of Allah so
that he may benefit from them in this world and the Hereafter
May Allah SWT grant us
righteous spouses and children
Aamin
May Allah SWT grant us
righteous spouses and children.
the intention has a special
and important place with regard to the outcome, as the Prophet said,
"Verily, every action is by its intention." So if one has the correct
intention at the beginning of the action, then he has its correct fruits at the
end.
Correct intention correct
fruits
Setting A Good Example
The parent should be a good
and the best example for their children. They should hasten to do all good and,
likewise, hasten to leave all evil. This is because children follow the example
of their parents as they love them and respect and admire them. So the parents
are the greatest of all examples for their children.
Therefore, whatever the
parents are upon, the children follow them. It is not possible, however one may
try, to hide one's evil characteristics from their children. A person may go
into his home, closing the door behind them, but it is the children who know the reality of their affairs They know how their character truly
is, what they watch and what they see, and they know their situation perfectly.
So we should try and be good examples to our children; having the best
characteristics, being good towards the people, and remaining upright in our Deen.
Placing Importance Upon The
Deen
The parent should make the
most important affair in his life and that of his child the Religion. They
should raise their child to know that the most important aspect of his life is
that he be upright in his Deen, correcting it and clinging to it firmly. Allah
said,
"And this submission to Allah, Islam) was enjoined by Ibrahem upon his sons and by Ya'qoob (as), ( saying), 'O my sons! Allah has chosen for you the
(true) Religion, they die not except in the Faith of* Islam."
[Qur'an Baqarah 2:132]
And He says, And he made it (i.e. Laa ilaha illAllah - none has the right to be worshipped but Allah Alone) a Word lasting among his offspring (True Monotheism), that they may turn back (i.e. repent to Allah or receive admonition)." [Qu r'an Zukhruf 43:28]
So this should be our greatest
concern with regard to our children, that we make clear to them the importance
of their Religion and their being upright. We should not be concerned with
their Dunya i.e. that they bring home food or drink or wealth, rather we should
be most concerned with their remaining upright Muslims.
✍🏻After this, the believer should make du'a to
Allah and supplicate to Him that He guide his children and make them upright,
for indeed there is no power nor strength except in Allah. No one has the
ability to guide his children himself, or to keep them upon the straight path,
rather this is in the Hands of Allah. So one should make du'a to Allah as His
prophets did before. Allah says that the believers say,
🌸🌸🌸⛱
" Our Lord! Bestow on
us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and
make us leaders for the Muttaqoon (i.e. pious and righteous persons who fear
Allah much [abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds which He has
forbidden] and love Allah much [perform all kinds of good deeds which He has
ordained])." [Qur'an Furqan 25:74]
And also Prophet Ibrahem (as)
_mentioned in a long_ _du'a_ ,
"O my Lord! Make me
one who offers prayers perfectly, and (also) from my offspring, our Lord!
And accept my invocation." [Qur'an Ibrahim 14:40]
So we should follow this
example of the prophets in making du'a to Allah and taking the necessary steps
in educating and bringing up our children upon this Deen, and asking Allah to
keep them upright in their Religion. The Ayah which was previously mentioned is
general for all of the believers.
That is, that when one
reaches the age of 40 he should make du'a for his parents and that Allah should
keep him upon the Guidance, and he also makes du'a that Allah keeps his
children upright and correct their affairs.
Showing Love & Kindness
Towards One's Children
The parent should control his
affair with love, kindness and softness, and should not always use harshness
and beating to bring up his children. Rather, he should make his way to be
primarily a loving and concerned way. However, if the situation requires that
he should also use harshness and hardness and even hitting his children, then
he should do so as and when the situation requires it, but he should not make
this his way i.e. that he is always hard and harsh towards his CHILDREN.
We should not be like those
people who are always hard upon their children as this may lead them towards
further corruption and going astray. Neither should we be like many of the
Europeans are i.e. that they leave their children without any discipline so
that they follow whatever way they like and do whatever they like. Rather we
should take the middle course (balanced), sometimes using harshness and
sometimes softness, according to the situation. We should always try to
exercise balance in raising our children, balancing their affairs correctly and
making the uppermost characteristic that of kindness, softness and MERCY.
Will pause here and continue
other time if Allah SWT permits us.
WASOLLALLAAHU ALAA NABIYYINA
WA ALAA AALIHI WA AS HAABIHI AJMAEEN.
WASALAAM ALAIKUM
WARAHMATULLAH WABARAKATUH
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