Obedience to parents

Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullah In Shaa Allah, we will talking about obedience to parents this morning. May Allah make it easy for us.

 

THE RIGHT OF PARENTS OVER THEIR CHILDREN.📓

One of the most important acts of worship that the child is asked to do with regard to his parents is to obey them, to do as they ask and to refrain from what they tell him not to do. So if his father or mother tells him to do something, he hastens to do what he is told, and if he tells him not to do something, he hastens to give it up, so long as that does not involve any disobedience towards Allah and his messenger, because there is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the creator.

The rights of PARENTS over their CHILDREN  may be summed up as treating them well in all matters, and behaving with them kindly as Allah says “And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents[al-Ahqaaf 46:15]

 

"And fear Allah through whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)". (4:1)

One must also remember how his parents suffered to raise him, especially his mother.🖊🖊🖊

The following three troubles are borne exclusively by the mother.

a) She carries the baby in her womb for nine months,

b) The labor pain which she suffers.

c) Two years' period of suckling, this disturbs her sleep at night and affects her health. She has also to be very cautious in her food for the welfare of the baby .

So their recognition by the Prophet.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and asked, "Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?'' He (PBUH) said, "Your mother". He again asked, ``Who next?'' "Your mother", the Prophet (PBUH) replied again. He asked, "Who next?'' He (the Prophet (PBUH)) said again, "Your mother.'' He again asked, "Then who?'' Thereupon he (PBUH) said,'' Then your father.  🖊🖊🖊🖊 I hope men are not jealous at this point.😅😅

Allah says:

"And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years- give thanks to Me and to your parents". (31:14)

So it is an established fact that our parents have right over us.🖊🖊🖊

SO I ASK THE FOLLOWING

How many are they who bring tears to their parent’s eyes and cause them sleepless night? 😔

How many are they who make their parents worried and anxious, especially when they abandon them and do not visit them often?

How many are they who when they become young men and women, terrorize their parents and bring tears of fear to their eyes?

How many are who treat their parents with kindness and mercy,just as the parents used to be kind forbearing with them when they were young?

Is it not true that parents are allies of hardship,sadness,anxiety and depression, fearing for their children when they grow up?

How many are they who upon reaching the age of responsibily,abandone their parents either to recide in another area,away from them, or travel for no pressing necessity?

They abandon their crying parents and cause them to miss looking at the dearest faces to them.

However they will keep thinking about their children and remember them in their heart, even though they no longer hear their words or see their faces.

Even when they depart for work or school by day or night his parents feel emptiness in their hearts and sometimes cry.

What will they feel if they close the outside door realizing that son or daughter will not come back any time soon, glancing into his or her room and feeling sad for losing the joy of his or her company and the comfort of his or her presence?

Crying will then be their resort, teaes will provide them with shelter, and humblesness and sadness will be their rufuge.

Subhaana ALLAH Brothers and sisters lets fear Allah be obedient to our parents.

May Allah help us to fulfill the right of our parents. Ameen thuma Ameen.

 

HOW CAN WE OBEY OUR PARENTS

 

DURING THEIR LIFFE TIME

Alhamdulillah, Allah has given us ways by which we can obey our parents in a beautiful verse of His. ALLAH SAYS

"And your Rubb has decreed that you worship none but Him.

1 And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life,

2  say not to them a word of disrespect,

3. nor shout at them

4  But address them in terms of honor......

5 And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy,

6 And say: `My Rubb! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young". (17:23,24)

 

Shaykh al-Sa’di (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “be dutiful and kind to parents” means: treat them kindly in all ways, in WORD and in DEED.

 

DURING THEIR DEATH

As for after the parents have died, the child can do many things, such as the following:

 

1 – If he has wealth, and his parents were in debt, he can discharge their duty by paying off the debt for them.

2 – If he has wealth and his parents had not performed Hajj, he may perform Hajj on their behalf, or pay for someone else to perform Hajj on their behalf.

3- Keeping good relation with family and friends of your parents when they are dead and gone.🖊🖊

 

It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Dinaar from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar that:

a man from among the Bedouins met him on the road to Makah. ‘Abd-Allaah greeted him with salaam, seated him on the donkey that he was riding and gave him a turban that he had been wearing on his head. Ibn Dinar said: We said to him: May Allah guide you, they are just Bedouins and they would be content with little. ‘Abd-Allaah said: The father of this man was a friend of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab and I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: “The best act of kindness is for the son to uphold ties (of friendship) with those who were his father’s friends.” Muslim.

3 – He may pray for forgiveness for them and pray for mercy for them.

 

Allaah says

“and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”

[al-Isra’ 17:24]

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man may be raised in status in Paradise and will say, Where did this come from? And it will be said: From your son’s praying for forgiveness for you.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah.

INDEED TO BE SUCCESSFUL ONE MUST BE DUTIFUL TO HIS PARENTS

 

EXAMBLES FROM THE BOOK OF ALLAH

YAHYA IBN ZAKARIYYA:

 ‘O Yahya (John)! Hold fast the Scripture [the Tawraat (Torah)].’ And We gave him wisdom while yet a child.

13. And (made him) sympathetic to men as a mercy (or a grant) from Us, and pure from sins [i.e. Yahya (John)] and he was righteous,

14. And dutiful towards his PARENTS , and he was neither arrogant nor disobedient (to Allah or to his parents).

15. And Salaam (peace) be on him the day he was born, and the day he dies, and the day he will be raised up to life (again).[Maryam 19:12-15]

Ibn Jareer al-Tabari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Here Allaah says: “And dutiful towards his parents” meaning that he was quick to obey them, loving towards them, and not disobedient.

 

“and he was neither arrogant nor disobedient” – here Allaah tells us that he was not too proud to obey Allaah or his parents, rather he was humble and submissive towards Allaah and his parents, doing what he was commanded to and avoiding what was forbidden to him; he neither disobeyed his Lord nor his parents.

 

AGAIN

Abu Hurayrah was appointed in charge of Madeenah by Marwaan. He lived in Dhu’l-Hulayfah (approximately ten kilometers from Madeenah) and his mother lived in one house and he lived in another. When he wanted to go out he would stand at her door, and say: Peace be upon you, O my mother, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And she would say: And upon you, O my son, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And he would say: May Allaah have mercy on you, as you brought me up when I was young. And she would say: May Allaah have mercy on you as you took care of me when I grew old. Then when he wanted to come in, he would do likewise.   🖊🖊

 

ALLAHU AKBAR can we do that today?

 

b)One scholar(Haywah bin Shurih, )used to sit teaching people, his mother would sometimes say to him, O Haywah, feed the chickens some barely, and he would leave his audience, obey his mother then resume giving the lecture.

How beautiful. May Allah help us.

SOME BENEFITS OF OBEYING ONES PARENTS

Paradise.

A parent is the best of the gates of Jannah; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it.'' [At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah].

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them)". [Muslim].💎

Extension of life span

Sustenance in this world

Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

 

It serve as Jihad

A person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and sought his permission to participate in Jihad. The Prophet (PBUH) asked, "Are your parents alive?'' He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (PBUH) said, "(You should) consider their service as Jihad.''". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

 

PROHIBITION OF DISOBEYING PARENTS AND SEVERANCE OF RELATIONS

Classified as major sin

Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "(Of the) major sins are: to ascribe partners to Allah, disobey parents, murder someone, and to take a false oath (intentionally)". [Al-Bukhari].

CURSE

"And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allah's Mercy), and for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell).'' (13:25)

 

And finally one will lose all the benefits of obeying parents

MAY ALLAH GRANT US THE ABILITY TO SERVE OUR PARENST AS IT SHOULD .MAY HE NEVER MAKE US ARROGANT TO OUR PARENTS.

AMEEN .